A defeatist attitude kills almost as many marriages as do affairs. Gary L. Thomas More Quotes by Gary L. Thomas More Quotes From Gary L. Thomas I wouldn't be surprised if many marriages end in divorce largely because one or both partners are running from their own revealed weaknesses as much as they are running from something they can't tolerate in their spouse. Gary L. Thomas divorce weakness running Couples don't fall out of love so much as they fall out of repentance. Gary L. Thomas falling-in-love marriage couple If you want to be free to serve Jesus, there’s no question—stay single. Marriage takes a lot of time. But if you want to become more like Jesus, I can’t imagine any better thing to do than to get married. Being married forces you to face some character issues you’d never have to face otherwise. Gary L. Thomas issues character jesus Parenting changed for me when I finally realized it's not about being a perfect parent trying to raise perfect kids, but rather, family life is a collection of sinners slowly growing together toward Jesus Christ as we rub shoulders, yield to his grace, ask for forgiveness and offer forgiveness, and are shaped accordingly. Gary L. Thomas perfect kids jesus What if your husband’s faults are God’s tools to shape you? What if the very thing that most bugs you about your man constitutes God’s plan to teach you something new? Are you willing to accept that your marriage makeover — the process of moving a man — might begin with you? Gary L. Thomas husband men moving Love your God and your family and you're making an eternal investment. Family life will continue in the New Heavens and the New Earth, but even the most amazing accomplishments on this earth will quickly fade. Genesis 5 teaches us to prioritize people over accomplishments. Gary L. Thomas accomplishment love-you people A good marriage isn't something you find; it's something you make. Gary L. Thomas good-marriage We bring nothing to God, and He gives us everything. Gary L. Thomas giving Any mature, spiritually sensitive view of marriage must be built on the foundation of mature love rather than romanticism. But this immediately casts us into a countercultural pursuit. Gary L. Thomas mature-love foundation views Fear is intensified by passionate love. The more I care about someone, the more I'm concerned about their welfare. The less we have to lose, in one sense, the easier it is to be "brave." Gary L. Thomas passionate care brave More than we care about their "success," vocation, or financial status, our hearts will be encouraged when our kids are faithful followers of Christ, and our hearts will be distressed when our kids appear to reject the Christian faith. So, the most important thing is transferring our kids' allegiance from us to Christ, raising faithful disciples who seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness. Gary L. Thomas christian heart kids Ideally, as parents we'd have unlimited energy, the ability to manage tricky emotions like fear and anger, vast stores of wisdom to answer complicated but important questions, love that never grows tired, patience that never ends... Every parent would like to have all of these, but God alone possesses them fully. Parenting reminded me of what I lacked more than it ever made me feel equipped. But there's a spiritual purpose in that! Gary L. Thomas tired parent spiritual A large part of parenting is about managing weariness and motivation. Much of the success of parenting is about avoiding the sins of "omission" as well as "commission." You can feed, clothe, and house your kids and not really parent them. When we raise kids for selfish reasons (to feel proud, to have people love us and appreciate us), if they disappoint us we'll pull back. But when we realize that God has called us to raise godly children and God is always worthy to be obeyed, we have a motivation that goes beyond our own pride and our own comfort. Gary L. Thomas selfish motivation children Done well, marital sexuality can be a supremely healing experience. Gary L. Thomas sexuality done healing Christian love must be chased after, aspired to, and practiced. Gary L. Thomas christian-love christian A Christian is never dependent on the response of others to grow spiritually. It's our own heart's decisions that matter Gary L. Thomas decision christian heart Our children may, at times, make parenting very difficult. Sometimes, we might be tempted to say, "Fine, I'm done with you!" But God is never done with them and we're still called to be their parents. Gary L. Thomas parent done children When God entrusts his children to us - for they're all ultimately his - he knows what we lack, he knows where we're weak, he knows how we tend to sin, yet still he places these children in our households and under our care. Gary L. Thomas care sin children The older I get the more I realize that a significant portion of a parent's happiness or sadness in middle-age will be directly impacted by how closely our children are walking with the Lord. Gary L. Thomas realizing sadness children Having children made me confront my true fears and trust in God many times over in a much more intensified manner. Gary L. Thomas having-children trust-in-god children
