I know from my own clinical work that when people are beaten and hurt, they numb out so that they cant feel anymore. John Bradshaw More Quotes by John Bradshaw More Quotes From John Bradshaw It's okay to make mistakes. Mistakes are our teachers -- they help us to learn. John Bradshaw mistake education teacher Guilt says I've done something wrong; ... shame says there is something wrong with me. Guilt says I've made a mistake; ... shame says I am a mistake. Guilt says what did was not good; ... shame says I am no good. John Bradshaw umpires guilt mistake Hell, in my opinion, is never finding your true self and never living your own life or knowing who you are. John Bradshaw knowing-who-you-are opinion self I have never met an aggressive person who wasn’t a fearful person. John Bradshaw fearful aggressive mets Our sadness is an energy we discharge in order to heal. …Sadness is painful. We try to avoid it. Actually discharging sadness releases the energy involved in our emotional pain. To hold it in is to freeze the pain within us. The therapeutic slogan is that grieving is the ‘healing feeling.’ John Bradshaw sadness pain healing We cannot heal what we cannot feel. John Bradshaw heal feels The capacity for love that makes dogs such rewarding companions has a flip-side: They find it difficult to cope without us. Since we humans programmed this vulnerability, it's our responsibility to ensure that our dogs do not suffer as a result. John Bradshaw responsibility suffering dog It is a mark of soulfulness to be present in the here and now. When we are present, we are not fabricating inner movies. We are seeing what is before us. John Bradshaw here-and-now mark artist True love heals and affects spiritual growth. If we do not grow because of someone else’s love, it’s generally because it is a counterfeit form of love. John Bradshaw growth form spiritual To truly be committed to a life of honesty, love and discipline, we must be willing to commit ourselves to reality. John Bradshaw discipline honesty reality The more we know about how we lost our spontaneous wonder and creativity, the more we can find ways to get them back. John Bradshaw frustrated lost-love creativity Shame is the root of all addictions. John Bradshaw shame addiction roots Children are natural Zen masters; their world is brand new in each and every moment. John Bradshaw relationship children reality Recovery begins with embracing our pain and taking the risk to share it with others. We do this by joining a group and talking about our pain. John Bradshaw soulmate pain love You can't heal what you can't feel! John Bradshaw heal feels Arrogance is a way for a person to cover up shame. After years of arrogance, the arrogant person is so out of touch, she truly doesn't know who she is. This is one of the greatest tragedies of shame cover-ups: not only does the person hide from others, she also hides from herself. John Bradshaw arrogant-person arrogance years I believe that this neglected, wounded, inner child of the past is the major source of human misery. John Bradshaw believe children past All these feelings need to be felt. We need to stomp and storm; to sob and cry; to perspire and tremble. John Bradshaw storm feelings needs It's essential to tell the truth at all times. This will reduce life's pain. Lying distorts reality. All forms of distorted thinking must be corrected. John Bradshaw pain truth lying The drivenness in any addiction is about the ruptured self, the belief that one is flawed as a person. The content of the addiction, whether it is alcoholism or work, is an attempt at an intimate relationship. The workaholic with her work or the alcoholic with his booze are having a love affair. Each alters mood to avoid the feeling of loneliness and hurt in the underbelly of shame. John Bradshaw loneliness intimate-relationships hurt
