Our nonverbals govern how other people think and feel about us. Amy Cuddy More Quotes by Amy Cuddy More Quotes From Amy Cuddy Our bodies change our minds and our minds can change our behavior and our behavior can change our outcomes. Amy Cuddy motivation inspiration mind Don't fake it till you make it. Fake it till you become it. Amy Cuddy fake motivation inspiration The whole body-mind thing comes into play, when you are feeling that self-doubt and your body is not going to help you if you're not paying attention. Your body's going to go with the self-doubt and make you feel worse, so by making the adjustments - pulling your shoulders back, standing up straight, walking in a more sort of expansive way - all sorts of little things will help pull you out of that self-doubt. Amy Cuddy self play feelings Trust is the conduit for influence; it's the medium through which ideas travel. 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Amy Cuddy shapes body mind People judge you really quickly, at first just on your facial features. There are two dimensions - warmth and competence. You can think of them as trustworthiness and strength. They're first judging you on warmth; evaluating whether or not you are trustworthy. That's much more important to them than whether or not you're competent. Amy Cuddy judge you strength people
