Quotes by Self Actualization You don't find happiness, you make happiness. David Leonhardt self-actualization discovering-yourself finding-happiness It is what we make out of what we have, not what we are given, that separates one person from another. Nelson Mandela self-actualization given inspiring Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable. Rollo May self-actualization intimacy risk Intimacy requires courage because risk is inescapable. We cannot know at the outset how the relationship will affect us. Rollo May self-actualization intimacy risk The more one forgives himself - by giving himself to a cause to serve or another person to love - the more human he is and the more he actualizes himself. Viktor E. Frankl self-actualization causes giving